Oct 022014

take newborn outsideFew subjects cause so much controversy as the question when you are allowed to take your newborn outside. Not only do generations answer differently to this question, there are also huge cultural and religious differences.

Traveling through Vietnam, I hardly saw any newborn baby, while there were lots of 6 months old babies and toddlers on the streets. A conversation with my guide in Hanoi made me understand why I didn’t see them; the first 2 months of Continue reading »

Sep 042014

don't chase away dadMost new moms have an advantage over first time dads; they already spent some time babysitting for neighbors and family to earn pocket money during their teenage years, so they know more or less how to handle a baby. The tinyness and fragility of a newborn freaks out every new parent, but changing diapers or helping a baby to burb is pretty much the same, whether they are 4 days or 4 months old.

Combine this with the fact that a mom-to-be feels her baby grow and move inside Continue reading »

May 012014

father takes care of his sonAnxiously, she is waiting for my verdict. She just told me, how terribly wrong things went last night.

Her three day old son cried and cried and she didn’t know what to do. Eventually she panicked and ran outside the bedroom, yelling at her husband that she couldn’t do this, so he better found a solution…

She is deeply ashamed about her reaction.  So she sits and waits until I label her as ‘unfit mother’ – she obviously thinks about herself as a very bad mom. Continue reading »